If you're happy and you know it.....

Kids are really sensitive to other people's moods. This is also why they can easily tell whether or not they can trust/like someone just by being near them in a room. They can read your emotions better than you can yourself sometimes and know whether you are feeling happy, sad, sick, angry, tired, etc. They then in turn will respond to your emotion with emotion of their own that usually corresponds. Sometimes it is great when you are sick because they shower you with love and concern. But on days when you are feeling tired or grumpy, it can mean that a once happier kid is now acting tired and grumpy as well. 

Fortunately today I was in a great mood and Elizabeth responded accordingly; even though for the past couple weeks she's been whiny and frustrated at being on the brink of both full mobility and communication. Today we were giggly and goofy and even though it's the hottest day so far this year; I feel like we've had the most fun. 

It's funny this sixth sense kids have about people because we don't always carry it on through adulthood. It's also the most important reason why you can't force a relationship with a child because if they don't feel comfortable with you, they certainly aren't going to with you trying terribly to "make them like you". 

I learned from worked in the childcare atmosphere that with kids, new ones especially, you must interact with them in a delicate way and try as much as possibly to let them come to you. Play with toys in the area or other children and be aware of your emotions. You may not think you are putting forth your tired, exhausted attitude with the smile you've pasted on your face but children can tell how you're feeling inside; looking straight through your facade. 

Oh, and try to never argue in front of kids. Or even somewhere they can still hear you. Knowing that adults aren't perfect and never is life is important, but save that lesson for a smaller argument like who makes better dinner. Kids don't need to know at age 3 that mommy and daddy are struggling financially or having trouble in the bedroom. 

Keep your kids emotional perceptions in mind when you are having a hard day and try to see the world through their eyes...... eyes where you are their best friend/playmate and bubbles are the most spectacular thing they've ever imagined!